Fighting Addiction Through Martial Arts Training

Today I added an article to my blog, Mount Laurel Martial Arts: Video Game Addiction, and it got me thinking about what are some tools I’ve used to overcome certain things in my life. One of the greatest tools I utilize is taking the time to meditate and pray.

My friend, Richard Hubbard and I discussed the value of meditation and how it helps him with his ADHD.

Here is an article I came across in one of my many researches on meditation.

Fighting Addiction Through Martial Arts Training

Each week at my martial arts school, my teacher conducts weekly lectures that are referred to as meditation class because at the end of the talk we sit and meditate for about 15 minutes. Sometimes we ask questions during these talks and recently one came up about how can meditation help you deal with recovery from alcoholism. Apparently, meditation is part of the 12 step AA program which I hadn’t realized. Interesting.

It got me thinking about my own former addiction with cigarettes. Almost 10 years ago I used smoke about a pack a day for more years than I care to recall. I was really addicted both physically and mentally to those damn cigarettes. Then one day I found myself getting up from dinner out with friends so I could go outside and have my smoke. More and more that was happening as people were really starting to frown on smoking even when sitting in a smoking section if there was one. So it didn’t matter if it was 20 degrees outside - out I would go disrupting a nice little get together to feed my addiction. Looking back my non smoking friends must have thought me ridiculous. Or ridiculously weak. What woke me up though was the fact that I realized cigarrettes were in control of me - they were the boss. I was a slave to my addiction. That is when I made up my mind to stop. Of course, I knew it was bad for my health and that was always in my guilty mind as I puffed away but that is what an addiction typically is isn’t it? Doing something despite the fact that you know it is harmful to you and doing it anyway.

So I quit and it was HARD. Really hard. I couldn’t imagine getting through the day much less the rest of my life without cigarettes. So I took it literally one minute at a time. When I got the urge to smoke, I delayed that feeling by exercising. Often I would find that if I could delay the urge and put my mind on something else, it would pass. I was also replacing a bad habit with a good one. When I couldn’t exercise because I was at work, for example, I constantly had a bottle of water at my side and I drank tons of it. I actually lost weight instead of gaining it. This brought me into a whole new healthier life style and about a month later I took my first martial arts class and that was truly the end of my addiction.

You see now I was this person who was fit and health minded. Now I was amongst people who strived for self discipline not self indulgence. I became someone very different from the smoker I used to be. I quit and stayed quit, unlike my husband who did not make lifestyle changes, and slipped back a number of times. To this day, he still craves a smoke sometimes. I can honestly say I never even think about it.

Certainly, my martial arts classes helped because on a very basic level I would not have been able to keep up if I was still puffing away and I really wanted to do my best. However, back then I didn’t meditate much and had I had this tool as well I know it would have really helped. Meditation helps train your mind to be in more control over your thoughts - exactly what the addicted person needs to stay off the drugs, alchohol whatever once the physical cravings have passed. Sitting in meditation and working through those urges by focusing on the breath would been another way to work through those urges until they no longer held the same power. My breathing exercises also showed me how much damage had been done and how much rebuilding was necessary.

Martial arts can be helpful on so many unexpected levels. I really admire the woman who had the courage to ask the question in class and I immediately had a deep respect for the transformation she is clearly working towards undergoing. I have little doubt that her chances for success are greatly increased thanks to her martial arts training. Good for her!

Have you kicked an addiction? If so, how did you do it? Please share your story.

This blog is part of Peter Liciaga's effort to promote the Ultimate Black Belt Test Program ( http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com ), which is an undertaking of The 100. (http://www.the100.us/ ), and a part of Peter Liciaga's Dream 100 Project.

Mount Laurel Martial Artist, Peter Liciaga, helps friend choose a karate school!

How to choose the right martial arts school for your child.

I wanted to share with you my answer to an email from a good friend about choosing a martial arts program:

Hi Peter, I hope this message finds you all well!

Chris and I wanted to reach out and get some advice from a Karate expert. I wish we lived near you to entrust the boys to your teaching, but since we live in Canada, the commute would be too far. We have been discussing whether Martial Arts would be appropriate for the boys.

We aren't well versed in it. Chris does know more than me, but we don't know which type would be best to start them at as well as what to look for in a dojo. Any advice you could lend would be so appreciated!! Again hope you all are well and I love reading about your success and family love~

All the bestand thanks

Dear Susan and Chris,
 
I am trying to send out a clear message to my community as to why every child should learn Martial Arts. This concept is nothing new; I have all been doing this in one way or another for my whole career. The difference for me is that I have never been quite as deliberate in my efforts as I am now. I believe that every child should learn Martial Arts.

There is a reason why Oprah, Dr Phil, Dr Laura Schlesinger, Jillian Michaels (Biggest Loser), Tony Robbins, pediatricians, child physiologists, and educators the world over all have alluded to the fact that Martial Arts is one of the most valuable things you can involve your child in.

It goes way beyond self defense and can help any child in nearly every aspect of their life. Improved health and fitness, athletic enhancement, increased confidence, better concentration, better behavior, more courteous and respectful; martial arts can help in all these areas.

Does this sound too good to be true? It’s not. As a matter of fact, many experts agree that in this day and age of escalating childhood obesity, increased playground violence and deteriorating family structure, if you do nothing else for your child, you should make sure that they learn how to swim and they learn martial arts.

Now, with all that being said, here's an article I wrote a while ago....

Considerations for Choosing a Martial Arts School
by Peter Liciaga

So many martial arts schools and so little time! How does one choose the right one? Here are some inside tips to help you to pick the right school “for the right reasons”, from Peter Liciaga, a veteran school owner.

Martial arts schools are everywhere! If you live in the U.S., chances are you have at least one school within a 5-mile radius of your home --and probably more. There are estimated to be more than six million martial arts practitioners in North America, about 70% of those are children. Today’s martial arts schools range from operations that rival the polish and fancy facilities of the nation’s finest health club chains to schools that look like the set of The Last Samurai to down-and-dirty “garage dojos.” Price ranges in the martial art industry, according to Frank Silverman, Director of the Martial Arts Industry Association, average out at about $125 per month, but schools can be found that charge anywhere from $35.00 per month to more than $200.

How does one go about choosing the right school? Industry expert Peter Liciaga, a veteran school owner himself, has some sensible advice on how to choose a martial arts school that’s right for you.

“The first thing to know about choosing a martial arts school is that you already know how to do it.” says Liciaga.

“You evaluate a martial arts school the same way you would evaluate any school you would take your child to. Just because you’re thinking of joining a school that teaches the “ancient art of self defense”, doesn’t mean you don’t apply modern day scrutiny to their professionalism, teachers, and facilities.”

Liciaga asserts that being a black belt, at any level, is not a sign that the wearer is a good teacher or that he or she knows how to run a business. “Just because someone is a good athlete, doesn’t mean they are going to give you your money’s worth when it comes to lessons,” warns Liciaga. “Parents should use their good judgment when choosing a school, as just like in the martial arts, there aren’t really any secrets, it’s all about mastering the fundamentals. If you’re looking for a good school, look for one that’s proficient at the fundamentals of customer service.”

Liciaga offers nine other school-hunting tips:

The Facility
Just like any business, the way the facility looks and its cleanliness (or lack thereof) says something about the attitude and aptitude of the owner. A martial arts school doesn’t have to look like a Starbucks, but it ought to be clean and organized. If a school doesn’t look professional, chances are it isn’t.

The Staff
Just like you would expect from any business, the staff of a martial arts school should be courteous, professional, and personable. They should treat you (and/or your child) like a paying customer. If you can go to a department store and get better service than you can at your local martial arts school, then spend your money at the department store.

The Attitude
Bad attitude = bad school; if you get a weird feeling, a sort of “attitude” from the staff or owner that rubs you the wrong way, then you shouldn’t become a customer of that school. If the attitude of the owner is superb and his or her staff exhibits a similar attitude, then you’ve found a school worth a second look.

The Style
When shopping for a martial arts school, the “style” the school teaches is secondary to who teaches the classes and how they teach them. A good instructor will make you feel good about what you’re doing. He or she will help you stay healthy and take an interest in why you’ve joined the school. If you’re a complete novice to the martial arts, don’t shop for a style or method, shop for the best teacher or teachers (read: the best people) you can find. Find the right teacher and you’ll love the martial arts. Find the wrong teacher and it won’t matter what style they teach.

The Students
Lots of intermediate and advanced students in classes? Chances are you’ve found a school that knows how to enroll and keep its students; that’s a good sign. If you go to a school that’s been in business for a year or longer and it’s still empty, something’s not right with the school. Most martial arts teachers think their classes are the best classes --the way that most restaurateurs think that their food is the best food. If the parking lot is empty, it’s a sign that the customers have a different opinion.

The Financial Arraignments
Many martial arts schools will ask you to sign a contract for a certain number of lessons and/or for a certain amount of time and that’s ok, as a school has to sell its wares and generate cash flow just like any other business. You shouldn’t think twice about signing a contract with a school, under the following conditions:

1. You’ve had adequate time to witness and experience the service the school provides. Most schools have a great sales pitch, but some aren’t able to follow through with the level of service they promise. Nine out of 10 schools will allow you to try a month of lessons, for a price, before you agree to enroll for a certain number of classes or months. If you can’t negotiate this trial period, it’s a definite red flag. Bonus Tip: Most schools will have a Pay In Full option on membership. It’s ok to pay for your membership in full, but make sure you know the school thoroughly before doing so. Most schools will have a no-refund policy.
2. The contract you sign should spell out, clearly and exactly, how you leave the program should you have to leave or if you become dissatisfied with the service. It’s ok to pay a little exit fee or some other penalty should you decide to leave before fulfilling the terms of a contract, but the penalty or penalties shouldn’t be unreasonable (and some are, so check carefully). Nine out of 10 schools will, if you insist, write a special “exit clause” on your contract spelling out the terms of your departure and they will also be willing to strike out parts of a contract if you don’t feel comfortable with the verbiage. Bonus Tip: The way the owner or staff member treats you should you try to negotiate a trail period or a change in the school’s contract will give you a very clear idea of what the school’s service is really like, after the sale. If you’re not treated with respect, go elsewhere.

The Service
There’s service, then there’s good service, and then there’s excellent service. Just because the owner or staff member of a martial arts school has the ability to make you beg for mercy with his or her baby toe, doesn’t mean they have the right provide you with anything but the best service they can muster. If you visit a martial arts school and you don’t see or feel a reasonably high level of customer service happening, raise that suspicious eyebrow, step back a bit, and do some further analysis.

The Feeling You Get When You’re There and When You Leave
Are you having fun? Do you leave the school feeling empowered and taken care of? If you go to a martial arts school and leave feeling better than when you arrived, you’ve found a good thing.

Your Gut Instinct
Always go with your gut instinct when choosing a school or instructor. If your intuition says something’s not right, something’s not right. If you’ve found a good school, you’ll know it (especially if you’ve read this article).

Peter Liciaga is an education activist to the martial arts industry. He is also a founder of the Stop Bullying Now Project. He resides in Mount Laurel, NJ.

This blog is part of Peter Liciaga's effort to promote the Ultimate Black Belt Test Program ( http://www.ultimateblackbelttest.com/ ), which is an undertaking of The 100. ( http://www.the100.us/ ), and a part of Peter Liciaga's Dream 100 Project.

For Martial Arts in Mount Laurel NJ, visit http://www.dinotokarate.com/